Jada Pinkett Smith says a cheat deserves a second chance
Will Smith's wife writes on her Facebook page
Should I stay with a mate after she or he has cheated on me? (This is
not referring to habitual cheaters. That is a different matter.)
This is a very personal choice, and there is no right or wrong answer.
If your partner is remorseful and is willing to work it out, I would
suggest trying to look at it from this vantage point. My observation has
been that when most people cheat, they are trying to solve a problem.
They are usually in some kind of emotional trouble or confusion that
they believed the cheating would relieve. What's interesting is that
most of the time the cheating has nothing to do with YOU. Now the
question becomes, are you willing to put all ego aside and reach for
some deep compassion to try to figure out what the trouble is, and, as
partners, try to solve it? Know this, if someone has cheated on you who
truly loves you, they have hurt themselves as much as they have hurt
you. This makes for a great opportunity to deepen the relationship with
thorough honesty, which creates deeper respect with some serious setting
of boundaries. This is also when love gets real and true and
illuminates what you are made of as a couple and as individuals.
Situations like these could be the windows to a deeper commitment OR...
to two separate paths on the way to look for new partners. Only the
unique nature of your specific relationship can be the telling factor.
Is he or she worth it?
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